Rainbows!

This was such an inspiring picture.



( cut for a little bit of bitterness about Georgia )

But speaking as a parent I'm really happy for the couples in New York and also for all their kids, biological or fostered or adopted or step- or straight or queer. It's going to mean an immediate and positive improvement for them in many ways.

I don't mean to imply that couples without kids are any less worthy, or less important, or that people with kids who aren't married and don't want to be married are any less worthy, or less important. It's just that the kids are really a part of all this too, and the way that marriage has been set up, it has some crucial protections for children when the family faces bad times like death and divorce and custody problems and medical emergencies. And it's awful that same-sex couples have to set up a complicated, weaker legal web to deal with these issues and contingencies when straight couples don't. Honestly, I am not too up on marriage and would not be married to my husband now if we didn't have kids, and I'm following family precedent; my mother didn't marry my father until I was six years old, and she only did it for a housing application. But I had the privilege to make that choice and it's terrible and shameful that so many couples don't.

So here's to the kids! A rainbow for them too :-)